I help people in long-term, "good enough", discern if they should stay or go, and do it with intention, integrity and awareness, unpacking the patterns that brought them here so that they don’t repeat the same dynamics in their next relationship, or so they can truly change the one they are in.
Are you in a relationship that you suspect may have come to the end of its lifespan?
Do you want to end your relationship and do it with integrity, awareness and intention but you aren't quite sure how to do that?
Are you afraid you might repeat the same patterns in your next relationship?
Are you having trouble deciding if you should stay or you should go?
Has your relationship already come to an end and now you are ready to unpack how you ended up here at this place in your life when it was supposed to look so differently?
Are you ready to find out who you REALLY are?
That's exactly where I was at. I was feeling like my relationship had come to the end of the road and something needed to change drastically but I felt so much pressure from my old stories...
-church- god forbids it,
-family - you don't break up the family and
-from inside myself - this is good enough, you definitely don't ask for more, that's selfish... that I wrestled with actually ending my relationship for 3 years. Can you relate?
"A life truly lived constantly burns away veils of illusion, burns away what is no longer relevant, gradually reveals our essence, until, at last, we are strong enough to stand in our naked truth."
This work might be a fit for you if:
Your relationship is no longer working for you and you are scared of what that might mean.
You are stuck in the role of good girl, good boy, loyal son, rescuer, conflict avoider, care-taker of others.
You are really good at accommodating others but not as good at standing up for yourself.
You are stuck in your patterns and don't know what to do about it.
You suspect your physical issues (body breakdown, auto-immune issues) might be telling some part of your story and you want to know what it is.
You have lost sight of who you are and what you actually want...you just know it is not THIS.
You are afraid to cause anyone pain.
You don't want people to be mad at you.
Your religious history, what your were taught was 'right' is hard to let go of.
You feel angry and resentful.
You are depressed and anxious.
You are curious about 'parts work' and you want to learn how to discern the many voices in your head that you hear speaking.
You are ready to unravel your life with integrity, discernment, intention and awareness because you are determined to save the only life you can save, your own.
YOU ARE READY TO DISCOVER YOUR AUTHENTIC TRUTH AND LIVE IT UNAPOLOGETICALLY
A brief video introduction.
How we do the work
Connecting Chronic Pain To Emotional Roots Through Bodywork
We are our body, our body is us.
We are not separate. To fully heal, we MUST include our body.
Our body tells our story.
The limited role I was stuck in, my good girl, was showing up in my chronic back tension, and in the physical loss of my voice. I needed to connect my physical symptoms to my story in order to heal.
Therapeutic bodywork is one way to uncover and heal the many effects of our traumatic experiences, our stuck emotions and the results of the limited roles we play, known as our survival story.
Becoming Our Authentic Selves Through 'Parts Work'
We are more than we appear.
Until we work to uncover our authentic self, we are showing up in a limiting role, as one of our many 'parts'.
Our 'parts' are part of our survival story and we have mistaken them for who we actually are.
Some limiting roles you might be stuck in?
The good girl, rescuer, conformist, tyrant, rebel, good boy, victim, princess/prince, co-dependent one, the sad one.
Our roles are our childhood survival strategies. We can heal them and live a much fuller expression of ourselves.
Healing from Religious Trauma
Some people have been so wounded in the church.
The is the place we first learned to not trust ourselves.
We could not trust our heart, not our emotions, our longings, our pleasure, and certainly not our bodies.
This was deeply wounding and an area we need to heal in ourselves.
By healing from our religious trauma, we can find our way to a bigger story.
We can discover that the world is not against us but actually for us. We can learn to trust ourselves and the world around us.
There is more.
Discovering Ourselves Through Dreamwork
I f you have never worked with your dreams, here is your opportunity.
We dream an average of 4-5 dreams every night, and when added together, could total 6 years of our lives spent dreaming. That's a long time to spend and assume it is because of the food we ate, or stress.
Dreams come to you from you soul, your psyche because it is trying to tell you something you don't already know or is inviting you to feel something you might not be feeling. Dreamwork is a portal to discovering your authentic self.
What will this healing journey do for you?
Help you unravel your relationship, if that is what you end up deciding is right for you
Learn how to allow the endings in your life as fully as you allow beginnings
Help you transform your relationship by transforming your self, should that be the path you decide on
Help your uncover the root of your patterns, the stuck 'loops' you are on, so you can heal and change them
Discern the 'voices' in your head...what is coming from Wholeness and what is coming from our 'parts'
Become response-able...respond to life from your wholeness, not react from your parts
You rock boats sometimes and live to tell the tale
You change your relationship to your body and heal
You integrate all the parts of you
You are no longer ruled by 'should'
You are in relationships because you truly want to be, not because of co-dependence and rescuing
You re-discover your vitality and aliveness
You do things you never thought were possible for you, things outside your box
You feel your own emotions and you let others have theirs, even anger
You set boundaries and survive
You learn how to have difficult conversations and don't abandon yourself in them
You feel proud of yourself and confident in your deep, inner knowing
You find and live YOUR truth
You recognize when you are in your wholeness and when you aren't, and what to do about it
You discover and live from your heart
You re-discover your instinctual knowing, your gut center
You have true self-compassion, maybe for the first time
You develop skills you can use to continue to heal and integrate yourself on ever deepening levels
We inspire the up coming generations about what true adulthood looks like, instead of serving as a warning of what not to do
What People Are Saying
"Becky is very skilled and intuitive. I am mind blown as to how the body stores emotions and how Becky helps you recognize the effects of storing these emotions in your body in such a non intrusive and non judgemental way. Profound."
Galen, Astrologer and Client
"You Changed My Life."
"I have had several sessions working with Becky online and I have found each session to be profoundly helpful as I have sought to gain deeper wisdom and healing around a body trauma that I suffered early in life. Becky's mirroring of my experience, her deepening questions, and her affirmations of the steps I am taking have combined to lead me to a new place of wholeness in both my body and spirit. I have found Becky to be a compassionate and committed ally in taking this journey and have discovered that the online format has not been a barrier in any way."
Brian, Life Coach
There is no sense talking about "being true to yourself" until you are sure what voice you are being true to.
It takes hard work to differentiate the voices of the unconscious.
The key to healing and growing whole is not suppressing symtoms, eliminating wounds or eradicating sub-personalities but, rather, cultivating our wholeness...
...Consider the possibility that you and everybody else is a multi-dimensional personality. And that is a good thing.
You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You just have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.